Counsel with our Councils

       Communication in a family is central to its functionality. If we cannot or won't communicate with each other then we will not be able to have a unified and close knit family. We communicate in many different ways there was a study done that concluded that 51% of our communication is through our tone of voice, 35% through our nonverbal ques, and only 14% through words. There is so much room to misunderstanding! That's why it's important to realize misunderstandings happen. They aren't a bad thing. They are just a part of life. It's also important to take the time to work out our misunderstandings. Get curious not furious.
        Another important way we can increase communication in our homes is to hold family councils. Family councils allow for time set aside for discussing big and important things pertaining to the family. When we set aside time every week to discuss important issues we are preparing our families before something drastic happens. We are coping. As we increase communication during times of peace and plenty, communication will not shut down during times of strife.
        Heavenly Father has laid out the perfect way for us to hold family councils. Elder Ballard, of the quorum of the twelve apostles, has often taught about the importance of councils and how they should be run. The order of the council will do the most good for your family if you:

                           1) Start by expressing love an appreciation for one another. Take an interest in each other's daily activities and hobbies. Ask questions about their interests.

                           2) Open with a prayer. Invite Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ into your home, they are apart of your family too. They know and want what will be best for your family. They see the bigger picture.

                           3) Discuss the current concerns. As you discuss a solution to the concern come to a consensus as a family about what you should do. Leave no one out of the process of making the decision. It is a family affair and a great learning opportunity for your children about how to make decisions and how to work well with others.

                            4) End with a prayer. Always seek for confirmation from God about your decision.

                            5) Have some form of refreshment. This is a great time to again express your love for each other and make meaningful conversation.

I challenge you to try and hold your own family council! I promise it will bless your life and increase communication in your home. I also challenge you to follow this guide line so that you can have a more meaningful experience as you meet together as a family.